Indian Culture and Family Values 13

Indian Culture and Family Values

Proud of Indian culture and values

Family is the longest surviving institution of India irrespective of the ages, transformations, religious and political views. Loyalty, integrity and unity are the three pillars upon which Indian families & Indian Culture stand. From family, Indians learn the first letters of collectivism and sacrificing individualism for collective interest. Extended family and kinship are two key aspect of Indian family system.

In some parts of India, you will find patriarchal families while in southern India you can find mother-centric families and kinship.  Historically, family in India means joint family consisting of grandparents, parents and their offspring. They all leave in the same household, share the common income, eat the food that is cooked for all members and share the same religious values and faith. Though, joint family system is losing its importance with the growth of materialistic values, still you can find this system in most of the parts of rural India.

In general, the male child is given more importance compared to his female counterpart. This is due to the reason that traditionally men are the bread earners and women are the house makers in an Indian family. In a traditional Indian joint family, though the decisions are taken collectively after proper discussion among the elders, the words of the head of the family are final. In an Indian family, child rearing is permissive in most of the cases. The children are not allowed to be independent, take their own decision and self-sufficient before they become completely adult. However, utmost care is taken to improve the personality of the child in a positive manner by all elders of the family. In a typical Indian family boundary line, adolescence is the most difficult time for a person. He/she wants liberty and emancipation while the whole system denies it. Arrange marriage is more or less a rule in most parts of India even in 21st century.According to me Indian Culture is the best in the world , For us India comes first Always and Every time.

13 thoughts on “Indian Culture and Family Values

  1. Reply Rajiv Dec 19,2010 3:56 pm

    Very true and frank opinion Indeed ! Albeit the society is changing fast and adapting to the needs and demands of Matriarchal families. Today i see very rarely differences are being made between a male and a female child and certainly this kind of upbringing helps the girl child to have and independent attitude. and definitely Indian Culture is the best in his own ways.

    • Reply Anon Mar 8,2012 4:47 am

      Research the female genocide in india… take a look at what you and the rest of your peers, workers, parents, teachers, and NATION has turned a BLIND EYE TO.

  2. Reply Rameez Usmani Aug 28,2011 2:47 pm

    Great post

    Joint family system is a key for happiness in India and Pakistan …. but as in India , Pakistan is also loosing grip on joint family system due to materialistic values, and intolerance among family members, esp wife and her in laws….. following points must be considered to keep the joint family system going without fuss

    1) head of the family must listen to and respect the opinions of others, and must be open to accept his mistakes.

    2) children must be given time to study and no disturbance should be made at that time.

    3) Happiness and sorrows must be shared ….income must also be shared but if someone is jobless , he or she must keep searching for job , instead of totally depending upon the family.

    4) Each separate family living together must be given some privacy and man should not be treated bad if he gives most of his time to his family.

    5) No one should poke his nose into personal matters of others if they are not open to that

    few more points are there but cant get in my mind right now

  3. Reply B S Kumar Sep 6,2011 10:01 am

    You must be living in some sort of insulated illusion, Pavitra. There are as many husbands cheating on wives, wives cheating on husbands, neglecting parents in their old age, and all sorts of shenanigans as in any other society, right here in India. Who says the Indian family is such a great institution? It no longer is. Divorce rates are going up day by day, but we’re becoming more honest and self centred as humans.

  4. Reply Indian Woman Jan 13,2013 5:11 pm

    I’m extremely saddened that your blog, which seems to be read by quite a few people, supports some very regressive thoughts of todays India.
    Let me explain more:

    1. ‘….the male child is given more importance compared to his female counterpart. This is due to the reason that traditionally men are the bread earners and women are the house makers in an Indian family.’
    –> I’d like to know what makes you proud about this part of our culture? This statement means that women continue to be suppressed even if they are as educated and on par with men – just because they are women. We have created this immense amount of inequality in the name of tradition!

    2. ‘…. the words of the head of the family are final.’
    –> Again, what makes you proud here? If you look at most families this is still practiced in, you’ll notice that the heads of families make decisions in favor of men and against women. If you look at it in villages, the head ‘Panch’ sometimes makes unfair decisions.Does the head of the family respect other people’s opinion in a fair and just manner?

    3. ‘…adolescence is the most difficult time for a person. He/she wants liberty and emancipation while the whole system denies it.’
    –> Really. What makes you proud about this? The fact that when a girl enters adolescence, she is told how to cook, how to clean and wash? That she has to start ‘behaving like a girl’? When a boy enters adolescence, he has no freedom to exercise whatsoever? Indian parents being maniacal about controlling their children is a problem…nothing to be proud of here.

    4. ‘Arrange marriage is more or less a rule in most parts of India even in 21st century.’
    –> Because love marriages are a taboo even in the 21st century in India! Where you have no clue who you are getting married to and spend the rest of your life ‘adjusting’ to him/her. What makes you proud of this?

    I’m sorry to say this – your blog is quite immature. It feels like you just write without thinking about modern day issues, the country’s problems, and how we, as citizens, need to handle it. Please think more deeply about what you write.

  5. Reply do you realy want this Jan 22,2013 2:13 pm

    Hi kumar what you said may be right but still it is your perspective nothing to do with India how many people are getting divorced and how many are maintaining there relations.if it is 20 or 30 percent so there are still 80 to 70 percent are maintaining the relations, don’t see the dark side try to see the bright side .and be proud to be an Indian where relations being maintained.

  6. Reply Abhik Ghosh Feb 6,2013 9:34 pm

    At core, Indian culture and family life are amazing institutions. The solid Indian family is the bedrock on which India is building its technological prowess. It’s also an area where we have a major edge on many other countries. Young Indians need to learn this … That said, divorce numbers are rising; domestic violence is not uncommon. And yet, family life is still far healthier in India than in the West and it’s a national treasure we need to be keenly conscious of.

  7. Reply Mayank Jun 11,2013 11:46 am

    I would have written such article in Hindi. Nevertheless its awesome!

  8. Reply Saurav Oct 3,2013 8:57 pm

    I hate my indian family. I am not saying all indian families are like mine but the importance of respect for elders regardless of the content of their character provides a ripe breeding ground for abuse. Furthermore, indians are generally more likely to try to project a perfect family even though inside the family is a necrotic and dysfunctional mess. Indian families are controlling, overprotective, gossipy, intruding structures in my experience. I hate being indian. I wish I was never born into an indian family. I wish I was never born actually.

  9. Reply home Nov 27,2013 11:13 am

    Way cool! Some very valid points! I appreciate you writing this article and the rest of the site is very good.

  10. Reply Vijay News Dec 12,2014 12:12 pm

    You really make it seem so easy with your presentation but
    I find this topic to be really something which I think I would never understand.

    It seems too complicated and very broad for me.
    I’m looking forward for your next post, I’ll try to get the
    hang of it!

  11. Reply Parth Mar 27,2015 5:43 am

    Quite frankly, this blog is immature. Even though I am just a teenager, it has way too many apparent flaws. You seem to be too focused upon India’s cultural and moral values to grasp that modern day practices and ideals are neglected for tradition? Is this modern? Yes, in some cases it is good. But, think about it. As a teen, I still can’t leave the house without my parent’s permission.

    Proud indeed!

  12. Reply Vinit Mar 29,2015 1:42 am

    Our family is always their in provides moral support,give children time to decide what they want to do without creating pressure to earn.Grand-parenting offers so much for both,it also allows both parents to earn.we are able to save money. Which gives ultimate peace of mind to an Indian. Needless to say I am very proud of our family system.

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